As I begin to notice the first signs of cool breezes and chilly mornings, I am thinking about transitions. I love autumn, but it is always hard for me to say goodbye to summer. The shift into fall weather is a bittersweet one, as many transitions are; whether we are dealing with a breakup, the loss of a loved one, or even an overall positive feeling transition such as a shift in weather, a move, or a promotion, change can be a struggle. Caring for ourselves with kindness and compassion becomes even more important when we are going through an adjustment.
For those of us who struggle with change, we can rest assured we are not alone. It is common for it to feel difficult to adjust to new lifestyles and new ways of thinking. There is a huge amount of comfort in the familiar. Change requires many of us to face feelings of fear and apprehension about the unknown. It is normal to be scared; to be human is to be a creature of habit. However is it also very human to be adaptable and resilient.
Saying goodbye, whether it is to a job, a relationship, or even a bad habit, can be so painful that we feel heartbroken. It is ok to feel this way. Give yourself time to mourn. We are strong enough to endure this and, when we feel ready to move on, we have the ability to make choices for ourselves to help lessen the pain and bring joy back into our lives. This will include identifying new needs and reevaluating our self care strategies.
Whether a certain change results from a decision we have made or the change is entirely out of our control, we can use our ability to care for ourselves to get us through the period of adjustment. Throughout the next month, I'll be exploring several areas in which change can be difficult, and examining the unique self care opportunities presented to us by each scenario.
What types of adjustments feel difficult for you? Do you find change painful? What do you do to cope? I would love to hear from you in the comments!