Sometimes self care means cutting ties with a person who was, at one point, very important to us. The end of a relationship can be an incredibly painful thing to cope with, even if we know it is ultimately going to be the right thing for us. However, it can also be freeing. In addition to the sadness and grief that come very naturally when disengaging from another person, we can sometimes manage to connect with a sense of excitement and independence. The decision to end a relationship, whether a friendship or a romantic partnership, is usually made because someone has identified needs that the other person consistently fails to meet. Sometimes, ending the relationship gives us the chance to meet our own needs.
The songs below do a good job of acknowledging both the sorrow and the opportunity for joy that breakups present to us. The artists sing about prioritizing themselves by setting boundaries. They are willing to endure the temporary pain of a breakup because they trust in their ability to care for themselves. They know that they will grieve the loss, but that they will eventually be happy again. Tracy Chapman tells her partner to leave, saying, "Take your fast car and keep on driving" and Rilo Kiley reassures her ex, "It's not as if New York City burnt down to the ground once you drove away." Breakups suck. People leave and it hurts like hell. Life goes on. We have the power to give ourselves the love that we need.
Know of any other breakup songs with a positive spin? Is there one tune in particular that helped get you through the end of a relationship? Would love to hear from you in the comments!