It's good so set lofty self care goals for ourselves, and have expectations that feel important. When it comes to New Year's resolutions, deciding to work on things like increasing self love, feeling happier, or living a calmer life are healthy aims. However, they are also so general that they may cause us to feel overwhelmed or unsure of where to begin. When clients come in with these types of goals, I find it important to help them break them down into smaller, measurable objectives.
We can think of objectives as the necessary steps required to accomplish the main goal. For example, I have decided that my New Year's resolution is to get to know myself better in 2017. This is such a general goal that I might not know where to start, so I take a step back and consider what would need to happen in order for me to feel like I know myself better. I believe I would need to spend more quiet time with myself and give myself space for self discovery, so my objectives will consist of specific activities that will allow me to do this.
- Goal: Get to Know Myself Better
- Objective 1: Meditate 10 mins daily
- Objective 2: Journal 3x/week
- Objective 3: Engage in reflective art activity each Saturday
Above is an example of what it would look like to write out your goal and objectives. Remember, the goal should be general and encompass the overall aim of what you intend to accomplish. The objectives should be measurable, and consist of smaller steps taken in order to reach your goal.
The way I outlined this process was by starting with a goal and moving backward to identify objectives, however you may also start with an objective and use it to help you identify the main goal.
What thoughts come up for you when you think about New Year's resolutions? Does your first thought consist of a general goal, or does your mind jump straight to a more specific objective? Please share in the comments below!